I have listened to all sides, I have empathized with all sides and I have processed all sides. What I have concluded is that parents have been hurt during this process of change. However, hurt people hurt people. It is time to move pass the hurt and move toward healing.
The facts may be distorted as to why person(s) said or follow through with their compliants. Whatever, the reasoning the result is the same. There were issues that needed to be addressed and unfortunately the issues were not addressed but instead the change was protested.
Every parent is fighting for what is best for their child but ultimately we should compromise for what is best for all children. In deciding this, of course it is crucial to include the plans and goals of each parent. The problem lies when parents are not efficient in conflict resolution. I would like to add that conflict resolution is a subject matter first introduced in elementary school.
Parent compromising without lowing their expectations and standards for their children is truly teaching our children what it is to be a true member of society.
I recommend the following steps:
1st step: Learning what is needed to compromise is understanding the regulations that governs our school community.
2nd step: Truly understanding how to get what your child needs based on the confines the DOE the policies and regulations
3rd step: Get out of the tunnel and as Frank Sinatra sang "Come Fly With Me" we have to learn to be more flexible. The ulitmate goal is to provide the best education for our children. To meet our children where they are and motivated them to do better. I am not against specialized schools or high performing schools. I would love to keep our percentage of our children receiving acceptance to those schools. The acceptance to those schools provides more options for our children. However, so does having an accredited additional language under their belt.
What has been done is DONE. We can not go back and fix what you feel was wrong. We have all been wronged and REVENGE is not the answer. I learned early in life when you plot on revenge you should always dig two graves.
Unfortunately for Ling Ling supporters, the model you were partipicating in was not the prescribe DOE model and the DOE will not change because you are unhappy with there choice on discontinuing what was practiced.
For example :If your child attempts to fit a square in a circle and you as the parent sit and watch him try over and over again, then he discovers that he can make the circle bigger by banging on it and now the square fits. Would you allow him to go through life making a bigger mess to get what he wants or learn the correct way of doing things?
Unfortunately, Ling Ling was able to get the end result that you wanted but in doing so a bigger mess was created and now it is up to the parents to find the proper fit for the piece we have without making a BIGGER mess.
It can be done but you have to be willing to make it work.
I would like to say that we tried working with these parents who have decided that no matter what they are going to get rid of Ms. Iris Y. Chiu. It is not worth your computer time nor your energy as they have decided that all the charges are lies and made up by the D.O.E. 1. No parents were told that it was a donation as every year my wife told me we had to pay $300 and there are numerous news articles on the web to show this. 2. They put up a wall with students names to show who paid or not. 3. when they raise the fee to $600.00 they put out a notice that many have copies of that if you didn't pay your child would be left in the cafeteria, which is illegal. 4. Most of the parents who are leading this charge are also in the school illegally and are from out of district. 5. Shaung Wen is a DISTRICT 1 school which means that certain parents who gave false addresses were told to do so by the Principal. I am done, I dare any of these pathetic excuses for parents to comment. I will send them to the proper authorities.
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