I made a comment that NO ONE was welcoming. I would like to retract that comment. I have many issues with Shuang Wen. However, I would be remiss in NOT saying that actually ONE family have been consisently cordial, civil, inviting and have been absolutely wonderful to my child.
Despite my views or my known associations, this one particular family have been very inviting and welcoming.
I do appreciate the level of respect that they shown my family as well as me. I am sure they probably recieve some flack for it. But they did not prejudge me. Although like politics and religion this topic is very emotional and we have not discuss our point of views and it can very well because we respect each other and we already know how we differ.
I truly hope I did not offend this family with my previous comment.
However, overall the parents I have spoken to earlier on showed that they did not want to rock the boat and I respect them as well. And I have noticed the new distance they have with me and it is fine, we all have to do what is in the best interest for our children and work our way through this process in the best way we know how.
I have no need to "go after" anyone. The real entity that needs to be monitored and corrected is the DOE and not just for Shuang Wen but for their overall methods in educating our children and there subjective monitoring of educational practices.
Friday, May 25, 2012
Thursday, May 24, 2012
HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE HURT CHILDREN
I have listened to all sides, I have empathized with all sides and I have processed all sides. What I have concluded is that parents have been hurt during this process of change. However, hurt people hurt people. It is time to move pass the hurt and move toward healing.
The facts may be distorted as to why person(s) said or follow through with their compliants. Whatever, the reasoning the result is the same. There were issues that needed to be addressed and unfortunately the issues were not addressed but instead the change was protested.
Every parent is fighting for what is best for their child but ultimately we should compromise for what is best for all children. In deciding this, of course it is crucial to include the plans and goals of each parent. The problem lies when parents are not efficient in conflict resolution. I would like to add that conflict resolution is a subject matter first introduced in elementary school.
Parent compromising without lowing their expectations and standards for their children is truly teaching our children what it is to be a true member of society.
I recommend the following steps:
1st step: Learning what is needed to compromise is understanding the regulations that governs our school community.
2nd step: Truly understanding how to get what your child needs based on the confines the DOE the policies and regulations
3rd step: Get out of the tunnel and as Frank Sinatra sang "Come Fly With Me" we have to learn to be more flexible. The ulitmate goal is to provide the best education for our children. To meet our children where they are and motivated them to do better. I am not against specialized schools or high performing schools. I would love to keep our percentage of our children receiving acceptance to those schools. The acceptance to those schools provides more options for our children. However, so does having an accredited additional language under their belt.
What has been done is DONE. We can not go back and fix what you feel was wrong. We have all been wronged and REVENGE is not the answer. I learned early in life when you plot on revenge you should always dig two graves.
Unfortunately for Ling Ling supporters, the model you were partipicating in was not the prescribe DOE model and the DOE will not change because you are unhappy with there choice on discontinuing what was practiced.
For example :If your child attempts to fit a square in a circle and you as the parent sit and watch him try over and over again, then he discovers that he can make the circle bigger by banging on it and now the square fits. Would you allow him to go through life making a bigger mess to get what he wants or learn the correct way of doing things?
Unfortunately, Ling Ling was able to get the end result that you wanted but in doing so a bigger mess was created and now it is up to the parents to find the proper fit for the piece we have without making a BIGGER mess.
It can be done but you have to be willing to make it work.
The facts may be distorted as to why person(s) said or follow through with their compliants. Whatever, the reasoning the result is the same. There were issues that needed to be addressed and unfortunately the issues were not addressed but instead the change was protested.
Every parent is fighting for what is best for their child but ultimately we should compromise for what is best for all children. In deciding this, of course it is crucial to include the plans and goals of each parent. The problem lies when parents are not efficient in conflict resolution. I would like to add that conflict resolution is a subject matter first introduced in elementary school.
Parent compromising without lowing their expectations and standards for their children is truly teaching our children what it is to be a true member of society.
I recommend the following steps:
1st step: Learning what is needed to compromise is understanding the regulations that governs our school community.
2nd step: Truly understanding how to get what your child needs based on the confines the DOE the policies and regulations
3rd step: Get out of the tunnel and as Frank Sinatra sang "Come Fly With Me" we have to learn to be more flexible. The ulitmate goal is to provide the best education for our children. To meet our children where they are and motivated them to do better. I am not against specialized schools or high performing schools. I would love to keep our percentage of our children receiving acceptance to those schools. The acceptance to those schools provides more options for our children. However, so does having an accredited additional language under their belt.
What has been done is DONE. We can not go back and fix what you feel was wrong. We have all been wronged and REVENGE is not the answer. I learned early in life when you plot on revenge you should always dig two graves.
Unfortunately for Ling Ling supporters, the model you were partipicating in was not the prescribe DOE model and the DOE will not change because you are unhappy with there choice on discontinuing what was practiced.
For example :If your child attempts to fit a square in a circle and you as the parent sit and watch him try over and over again, then he discovers that he can make the circle bigger by banging on it and now the square fits. Would you allow him to go through life making a bigger mess to get what he wants or learn the correct way of doing things?
Unfortunately, Ling Ling was able to get the end result that you wanted but in doing so a bigger mess was created and now it is up to the parents to find the proper fit for the piece we have without making a BIGGER mess.
It can be done but you have to be willing to make it work.
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